Sweet Wise
June 20, 2014
HDMI Splitter
February 5, 2015
I am a Birth Mother, and today is my daughter’s birthday. Since the day she was born, she and her family have been in my thoughts all the time, but even more so on her birthday. I don’t know who or where she and her family are, but I love them all. I wonder who she became, whether she is happy.
If you are an adopted child, know that most birth mothers never stop loving or thinking of their children. We want the best for you, which is why many of us made the hardest decision of our lives.
If you are a birth mother, know that you aren’t alone. When I made my decision to give my daughter up for adoption, I trusted completely that this was God’s plan for her and I still believe that with all my heart. Even so, it doesn’t take away the pain of missing your child. It does get a little easier over time, and for me what has helped tremendously is having people that I can be open about it with. I have other friends who are birth mothers, and they have been a comfort. Find your outlet – someone you can talk to about your child and your feelings. Finally being able to treat my daughter as the gift she is and not a secret was one of the most healing things for me.
And to Adoptive Parents – you are truly one of God’s many blessings. I am so thankful for you.
The pain of missing your child will never go away, but there are ways to manage it in a healthy way. I try to keep myself busy during this time, surrounding myself with good people I care about during my daughter’s birthday.
